BANTL Meeting
Nov. 28, 2007
Flo and Jack's in Sausilito
Topic: The Future
Judith Noel, facilitator
Attending:
Flo
Jack
Yifat
Paula
MaryAnn
Scott
Collins
Judith
Eight of us met for a deeply individual and personal discussion of what
the future holds for us, individually and as a group. We began with an
extended and interactive check-in, guided by 4 questions:
1. What is completed for you? What can you now let go
of?
2. What are you going toward?
3. What are you doing now/what actions are you taking in
service of that aspiration?
4. What do you need from us here?
Given the personal nature of the sharing, I did not take notes on our
content.
Looking at the Future of BANTL 2008 meetings, we discussed the
following:
A. Our next date is Jan. 3 (Thursday), 2008. Maybe I have this wrong,
and the date is Jan. 2 (Wednesday). Will someone please clarify. We
are scheduled to meet 'down south', location to yet be determined or
volunteered.
B. It is very helpful for the host(s) to receive confirmation on who
will be attending. Let's be more considerate in communication this in
the future.
C. It is worth our time at the onset on the New Year to review our
purpose for our meetings, affirm or change the direction of our
meetings, and assess the balance of informational/skills focus and
personal/interpersonal relationship focus.
D. We discussed what draws people (the "regulars") to our meetings, and
what keeps people coming. (It's the Heart, the honest sharing, the
Intimacy, the friendship, the colleagueship -- as much as, or even more
than, the intellectual stimulation).
E. Reminder to bring our calendars to the Jan. meeting so that we can
schedule 2008.
F. Volunteers for next 2 meetings:
1. Topic: Social Class (Jack)
2. Topic: Generational Dynamics -- from the 20th to 21st Century,
and how we renew ourselves (Seniors, Boomers, Xers, Millennials)
(Paula and Scott)
My sincere apologies for errors in the above. I wrote my notes on a
little bitty paper, in pencil, and can't read much of it. Those who
were present, please modify or correct misinformation.
With sincere gratitude for a Christmas-filled, Flo-inspired, home for
our meeting; and a Happy Channukah (beginning Tuesday eve. 12/4) and a
Happy Kwanza (12/26) to all.
Noel ;-)
Judith
The October 3rd NTL Group
Although no one at the last meeting understood or agreed upon what I proposed, everyone was quite happy to let me facilitate. So here's the focus:
WHERE AM I? WHO AM I BECOMING?
I (Craig Schuler) led a session on a here-and-now awareness and disclosure process. The gist of the exercise was to focus as much as possible on whatever you were experiencing in real-time, and to disclose parts of your experience that contained some import to you.
I tried to refocus comments from past (or future) tense to the immediate component of the experience. I also tried to refocus questions and other-oriented interventions to the speaker's own present experience.
In my view, the group was game for this experiment and some folks found it interesting and useful to let go of some of the group-tracking behaviors that we might sometimes over-use when we're group members (vs facilitators). Still, the process seemed to feel uncomfortably constraining to some folks at some points, and it didn't accommodate the fuller community connection that we usually include.
At the front end, we did a check-in that was more right-now focused, in step with the broader process. At the back end, we broke out some wine and talked about the experience, and gathered-up some community building elements that had gone unattended.
The October 3rd NTL Group
Although no one at the last meeting understood or agreed upon what I proposed, everyone was quite happy to let me facilitate. So here's the focus:
WHERE AM I? WHO AM I BECOMING?
INTENTION
§ To have the meeting be somewhat T-groupy - e.g. err on the side of more sharing of self and emotions and less sharing of stories from the past and/or trying to understand a conceptual construct (e.g what is SPIRITUALITY?)
§ To have the group serve as a container, support and mirror for who we are becoming at this point in our lives
PREWORK
Choose one or more of the questions below to reflect upon prior to the meeting:
§ What's the most important thing going on for me at this point in my life?
§ What's most significant about this stage in my life?
§ Who am I becoming? In what ways?
§ What behavioral, psychological, and/or emotional patterns am I modifying?
Or you might consider those maps on campus and elsewhere that have the big red X that says 'You Are Here'. How would you envision that map for yourself at this point in your life.
Still unclear of the concept? Think of the song, Once In a Lifetime, where David Bynre comments incredulously "This is not my life. This is not my wife. How did I get here?" And reflect on what's absurd, paradoxical, totally surprising about where you currently find yourself.
Our next Bay Area meeting is at Tracy Gibbons in Mountain View. We gather at 1:30 for coffee and cake and catching up with our session running from 2:00-5:30 and then wine and cheese.
No notes.
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Our next Bay Area NTL meeting is next Wednesday, March 21st At Andrea Corney's home [803 Curtis Street, Menlo Park 94025. (650) 329-8923]
Best
regards,
Mai K Vu